3 Types of Women: Which Are YOU?

3 Types of a Female: Which Are YOU? By Dr. Heather Hetheru Miller

If you have visited my website (www.yourinspiredjourney.com or my You Tube Channel) and read my mythology “The Becoming of Queens and Goddesses,” you would know that “women, queens, and goddesses” indicate that there was a process. A becoming. The females of our species enter into this world with feminine energy, power, and strength—a creative force that is either cultivated, subdued, latent, or repressed. While it (by Divine Creation) must manifest in concert with the priceless life born into the world, the energy yet exists.  Let me start by sharing: the insights that follow are not about judgment—not the good, bad, right, or wrong of a person or where a person is on the journey. It is a matter of our life experiences, readiness, and choices that set us on the course.

On my journey, I have not only identified three types of people but three types of females. Note this reference to “female” is about gender, not about a negative perception. I challenge every “wom[b]-man” who reads this message to look to your past and present experiences and identify which path you have followed or are following. There is significance and purpose in your steps!

You were wonderfully and beautifully made. The core of your body, by design, made flexible and strong enough to endure—yet gentle and transparent enough for great sensitivity and expression.

While the 3 types of people are the ordinary, extra ordinary, and the extraordinary, the 3 types of females are woman, queen, and goddess. Of our gender, we were all born into the world as female, but we become women, queens, and goddesses.

INTENTION of Actions

“Women” are the most unaware of our gender. She is considered among the ranks of ordinary people—anchored to the foundation of our world, communities, and families. She is a significant part of the status quo; locked into routines and the activities of daily living.

Did you know? According to Pew Research Center, 53% of Black women in the U.S. say they are the primary breadwinners and caretakers in their households—an invisible backbone to families and communities, often sacrificing their dreams for the dreams of others. (Pew, 2021).  She is educated by systems, life, and/or by life experiences and often conditioned to participate in the fulfillment of the American Dream.

“Queens” are among the extra ordinary of our gender. Existing unapologetically for being a doer, mover, or builder, she has changed the face of the world, community, and family. Educated by intention, she utilizes educational systems toward her greatest potential.

Black women are the fastest-growing group of entrepreneurs in the U.S., growing by over 164% between 2007 and 2018. These are queens who are not waiting for permission to build! (American Express State of Women-Owned Businesses, 2019) She is not after the American Dream—she is the supporter and builder of her own!

“Goddesses” are among the extraordinary of our gender. She is among the rank of healers, explorers, and defenders—speaking life, seeking life, and spreading life with both tangible and spiritual tools. More than 40% of Black women in the U.S. report being “spiritually active” and prioritize faith-based decision-making in life, leadership, and healing work. (Gallup, 2023)  She cultivates and guides others to an awakening of the spirit within and throughout all things. She is the alarm clock to awaken the sleeping and points to the horizon of possibilities.

I imagine you may be thinking, “So what’s the point?” The question encompasses the answer: Are you dreaming or awake? Which type are YOU… now?  Personally, I evolved through all 3. I had expected to live an ordinary life. I would graduate high school, complete college with a degree, work in my career, get married, have a family, be a soccer mom, member of the PTA, raise my kids as a stay-at-home mom, retire and be laid to rest.

But something happened in my raising from a girl to a young woman. I noticed there were seeds of passion and compassion stirring in me. Our world, communities, and families needed help to improve our quality of life and connect to a spiritual center I had yet to discover!  In fact, 77% of Black women say they feel a personal responsibility to help others in their community, particularly younger women and girls. (Essence + Nielsen Report, 2020)  But it wasn’t until my mid-twenties after I had earned my degree that I realized I was awakening and wanted to be solution-driven… for more than just me.

I got involved in my community—mentoring girls and sharing my experiences through poetry in public venues. But it wasn’t enough. By my mid-thirties, I was working in schools trying to prepare high school students for life and working with corporations in the retraining of their workforce. It still wasn’t enough.

By my mid-forties, I realized that I was no longer building but had crossed into the realm of healing. My own wounds of life had healed. My mindset had changed. My purpose had changed. My calling had changed. I had looked over the patterns and cycles of my life’s work and realized that I was the reflection of my inner and outer world—and I could choose my path.

SOLUTIONS for Consideration

I recognized that my passion and compassion had evolved into sharing the healing strategies I learned—not only for myself but for others. There were women, queens, and goddesses facing the realities of the issues of life—some with tools, but many without. Some asleep, but many awakening.  1 in 3 women worldwide experience anxiety or depression in their lifetime, but Black women are less likely to seek mental health services due to stigma and lack of culturally competent care. (World Health Organization, 2022) & Mental Health America, 2023)  Who would be there for guidance? Understanding? Or resources?  Why did I know what I know? See what I see? Do what I do?  It was not for me alone—but for me to hear the clarion call of the extraordinary. To be and become the goddess.

As I walk this path, I share the information, the tools, the insights, and guidance generously to those on this path seeking fellowship, transformation, and the loving healing energy from one heart to another. Where are YOU?  Your journey awaits YOU.

…Let the Journey Continue…

RESOURCES

Book: Woman of Purpose: Walking the Path — journaling tool by Heather Hetheru Miller For more information, visit www.yourinspiredjourney.com

Referenced Sources

• Pew Research Center. (2021). Women as Breadwinners in the Black Community.

• American Express. (2019). State of Women-Owned Businesses Report.

• Gallup Poll. (2023). Spiritual Beliefs Among Black Americans.

• Essence/Nielsen. (2020). Power of the Sisterhood: Black Women Report.

• World Health Organization. (2022). Mental Health and Gender.

• Mental Health America. (2023). Black & African American Communities and Mental Health.